10 Lies People Believe That Keeps Holding Them Back
Although it can be easy to forget, we are spiritual beings on this planet here to learn our individual life lessons.
This is step five of the seven steps to Ascension. And, as much as we’d sometimes prefer to just hang out or skate by, mastering these lessons is how we thrive and what leads to our becoming happier, more fulfilled humans. This is also one way to raise our vibration and become a mirror for others to be inspired and impacted too.
Each person’s life lessons are unique, but there are major themes we all share. One of the things I love about being a spiritual intuitive is all the ways the things we most need to know about ourselves show up in our hands. The ten major life lesson themes are among those things we can find in our hands, and they map perfectly to our fingers. Actually, they show up in our fingerprints. Fingerprints form five months before birth, so when you are born, they are fully formed and they never change. When I read someone’s fingerprints, I am reading them like a roadmap.
I’d like to share an overview of that roadmap with you here, looking at each finger and its associated lesson. I’m going to put it in terms of the “lies” that we tell ourselves, especially subconsciously. Turning these lies upside-down is what we need to do to grow and evolve spiritually.
“I’m a failure” -- Right Hand, Thumb
Thumbs correspond to willpower and how we use that willpower in our lives. The right thumb represents success and being able to achieve results in the real world. If this is your lesson, you are going to probably experience some failures because failure is part of the learning process. We have to fail sometimes before we can succeed. If this is your lesson, it’s important to look at every “failure” as one step closer to success. Life is full of stepping stones, designed to lead us in ways we don’t always understand.
“I’m powerless” -- Right Hand, Index Finger
In palmistry, we call the index finger Jupiter, and the right Jupiter finger relates to power and power struggles. If you’re working on this life lesson, you may have feelings of powerlessness or low confidence. In relationships, you may end up choosing somebody who dominates you or create situations where you open the door for others and say, “you're more important than I am.”
“I can’t handle responsibilities” -- Right Hand, Middle Finger
We call the middle finger Saturn, and on the right hand Saturn relates to duties and responsibilities. When this finger is a lesson, it can represent errors made in accepting or assigning responsibility. Too little responsibility means you blame everybody else for all the problems of the world. Too much responsibility shows up as taking on responsibilities that don’t really belong to you. In the first instance, you may need to look at yourself and ask what are you doing to contribute to the problem? In the second, it might be that you are over-giving and not allowing other people in your life to take personal responsibility or to learn something or do something on their own.
“I am invisible” -- Right Hand, Ring Finger
The ring finger is Apollo, or sun finger, and on the right hand it relates to being seen. It's how you show up in the world and how you are spreading your sun energy, your light. If this is your life lesson, you may find that you are hiding aspects of yourself, or you may not even want to show up. You might be afraid to have other people see who you really are and accept the vulnerability that comes with that.
“I can’t communicate effectively” -- Right Hand, Little Finger
The little finger is our Mercury finger, and while it may be little, it's got a big lesson on both hands. On your right hand, it is your finger of communication, and it is about learning the difference between when to speak and when to be quiet and listen, since 80% of communication is actually listening and nonverbal. If this is your lesson, it may be either that you are always talking and never stop to listen to anyone else, or that you never speak up at all. In either case, you are probably missing out on lots of great conversations, and either you or someone else isn’t getting their needs met. If you need to listen more, you can practice this by asking questions and listening to the answers with patience and curiosity. And, if you find you are quietly fuming inside because no one gets you or understands what you need, you might need to remind yourself that people can’t read your mind, so you need to practice being clear and expressing your desires, needs, and wants rather than expecting everyone to just know.
“I don’t belong” -- Left Hand, Thumb
The left thumb relates to family and community. If we have a lesson in family and community, we may feel like an outsider, like we don't belong, and we may wonder who we do belong with. Sometimes we may have trouble with our birth family, maybe a parent who was not there for us when we were young, and this may carry forward into adulthood, as well. And this can definitely affect all sorts of relationships. The lesson may be learning to always feel like you do belong, even if you think the evidence says you don't, because belonging ultimately starts within ourselves.
The left thumb is also about choosing appropriate community or appropriate family for ourselves. This is a big one in terms of relationships. It may be asking you to consider, are you actually attracting inappropriate partners? Chances are, you don't know who is the most compatible for you, and your left thumb lesson is asking you to figure that out. And sometimes you have to learn from bad experiences. As an example, when I first started dating, my very first boyfriend was not a very good match for the long-term, and yet I dated him for five years. We had our ups and downs and it was a volatile relationship, but because I was so young, I didn't understand that I didn’t need to stay in the relationship for so long or that I had the freedom to choose to be with someone else. Ultimately each lesson helps us to grow and so does every relationship, if we let it.
“I’m a victim” -- Left Hand, Index Finger
The left Jupiter finger actually holds the most common lesson, so chances are this lesson shows up in your fingerprint, and possibly in the prints of several people you know. It has to do with boundaries. Boundary violation, being a victim, and feeling like you're a victim are all part of left Jupiter. Ultimately, it's about finding what you're passionate about, claiming your personal power. It's about owning up to who you are, owning up to your responsibility for yourself as an individual, and taking a stand for your life and what's important to you.
Because we're looking to create and maintain appropriate boundaries, it's important to definitely speak your truth if you feel someone has violated you. Creating sacred boundaries are an important aspect to ascension, since violating free will creates karma. Keep in mind, the universe is always fair, no matter what appears to be the case outwardly.
“I’m not good enough” -- Left Hand, Middle Finger
The middle finger of the left hand offers the second most common lesson, that of self worth, which also often ties in with guilt issues. So many people struggle with self worth and, and it shows up all over the hands. Problems of not seeing or owning your value, seeing yourself as a wretched little creature--these things are horrible to put into your brain. You absolutely need to touch back into the value of who you are and recognize you are a strong and powerful spiritual being in a human existence. You are divine. You are already perfect just as you are. And when you don't feel that, or you're not in touch with that from a self-worth standpoint, you're going to really struggle in all areas of your life including relationships, work, money and overall joy. The quicker and stronger you can build up your own self worth, the better off you're going to be in your life and your life mastery.
“I don’t like myself” -- Left Hand, Ring Finger
The left ring finger has to do with self approval, and is, as you might guess, also fairly common. This lesson is about learning to be on your own side, not automatically assuming everyone else is right and you're wrong. In a way, it ties in a little bit with the left thumb lesson and the left middle finger lesson. It's about approving of yourself, being okay with your individuality and living into that whole essence of who you are authentically and saying, “it's okay that I am this way; I really like who I am.” Being able to share who you truly are is not only important to you as an individual, but is important to your ascension, to be the authentic spark of the divine that you are.
“I don’t trust” -- Left Hand, Little Finger
And finally, we've got the left little finger, which has to do with intimacy and trust, tying in with the communication of the right little finger. The lesson asks you to determine whether you are allowing yourself to get to know someone enough that you can be intimate with them safely. And if you have this as a lesson, again, you're probably going to make mistakes one way or the other. When you don’t have this one dialed in yet, you're going to either jump into relationships too fast, where you have sex after one date or two dates, or you're going to cut yourself off to the point of believing you hate relationships and don’t want or need them. In other areas of your life, you are likely to do everything yourself or constantly double check on others.
The important thing to remember about life lessons is that they are for our benefit; they help us grow, evolve, and flourish into the full capacity for which we were born. They are not here to beat us up or punish us. They are here to help us become more of who we really are authentically. They are here because we chose to grow spiritually in certain ways for our soul’s evolution and ascension.
There are many ways to change unhelpful thought patterns. The first is just becoming aware of what they are and having a desire to shift into a more positive way of thinking and feeling. I like to use invocations. Invocations are sort of like a poem, they are set up to declare and intend what it is you want to bring into your energy field. Here is an invocation to help you learn your lessons:
I learn my lessons tried and true
No more sadness or feeling blue
I am grateful for the growth in life
I now let go of lies and strife
And so it is.
If you are looking to accelerate your spiritual growth and you're ready to master your life lessons, remember that 95% of achieving that is about your inner game. When you can master the inner game, you can master the game of life. The universe wants for you what you want for yourself. Are you ready?
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Until next time, to your infinite light,
Cynthia Clark | Spiritual Mentor, Multi-Dimensional Palmist